5 Things to Never Say to Muslim Coworkers

During this season, it’s important to remember that not everyone in the workplace follows the same doctrines or celebrates the same holidays. Issues of religious accommodation and cultural competency may come up in your workplace, especially in conversations to avoid making your coworkers uncomfortable.

Islam is the fastest-growing religion in the United States. Muslims don’t observe Christmas and instead celebrating holidays like Ramadan, Eid al-Fitr and Eid al-Adha.

To help you avoid offending Muslim colleagues now and throughout the year, here are five things not to say.

1. “Why can’t Muslims decide when Ramadan starts?”

Since the Islamic calendar is lunar, Ramadan is determined by the sighting of the new moon, which varies from year to year. And like other faiths, there are interpretational differences in beliefs.

“In America, there are two groups of Muslims: The first believes you can use scientific data to determine when a new moon can be sighted, and thus you can predetermine the month,” says Nadir Shirazi, creator of “The Ramadan Guide for the Workplace.” The second group, he says, “believes that you must sight the new crescent moon with the naked eye.”

The start and end dates of Ramadan, depending on the practices of Muslims in your workplace, may be different. Providing flexible hours and allowing floating holidays will permit employees of Islamic and other faiths to celebrate their holidays without using all their vacation time.

2. “Why can’t you eat today?”

During the month of Ramadan, Muslims fast during daytime hours, so scheduling office parties, fall festivals and luncheon meetings at that time “puts a Muslim coworker on the spot [and] can be embarrassing for both parties,” explains Shirazi.

Education and consideration are key. “The ideal thing is don’t schedule office parties during these times,” says Niham Awad, founding member of the Council on American-Islamic Relations, the nation’s largest civil-liberties organization for American Muslims, based in Washington, D.C. “The least thing employers can do is don’t force employees to attend these parties, with all the food and drink, while fasting.”

3. “But you don’t look/dress like a Muslim.”

With an estimatedestimated 1.8 billion Muslims worldwide, to think all look and dress similarly is a stereotype. “All Muslims do not have long beards or wear white robes or hijabs,” explains Imam Hamad Ahmad Chebli of the Islamic Society of Central Jersey (ISCJ), a nonprofit religious, charitable and educational organization in South Brunswick, New Jersey.

In reality, Islam principle specifically states that there’s no compulsion in faith. Conversely, asking a Muslim woman why she doesn’t cover her body in a black niqab or drapery is equally inappropriate.

4. “I didn’t know you were Arab.”

This is another culturally insensitive comment. The reason: Only about 20% of Muslims worldwide are Middle Eastern. “Muslims are Black. Muslims are white. Muslims are senators … they’re in the White House,” says Chebli. Three senior leaders serving in the U.S. Congress who are Muslim include André Carson, Ilhan Omar and Rashida Tlaib. According to the American Religious Identification Survey, 10% of Muslims are Latino, 15% are white, 27% are Black and 34% are Asian.

5. “Why can’t you pray on your coffee break?”

Depending on the times allowed for office breaks, this comment can violate religious rights. That’s because “Muslim prayer must be done within specific time frames,” says Awad, adding that the second and third prayers are during business hours. What’s more, Muslim prayer involves standing up and bowing on the floor, which can be awkward to perform in the workplace.

It’s also preferred that prayer be done in a group. Progressive companies will designate a private room or other facility for group prayer. On Fridays, when Muslims are obligated to pray in mosques and not in the office, “companies must give an extended lunch hour,” explains Awad. “These are not only constitutional issues, but when you have a friendly work environment, you will have better performing and more loyal employees.”


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