9 Things NOT to Say to Women Coworkers

Before you make that “harmless” little comment to the woman in the next office, take a look at things women leaders tell us are absolute no-no’s in the workplace.

Bell, Lee, Vazquez

Things NOT to Say to Women at Work

Bell, Lee, Vazquez

Before you make that “harmless” little comment to the woman in the next office, take a look at things women leaders tell us are absolute no-no’s in the workplace.

1. Terms of “endearment” such as “sweetie,” “hon” or “cutie.”
This is when a term of endearment becomes anything but endearing. In the workplace, such language can be interpreted as degrading or belittling.

2. “You’ve lost weight” or “You look so much better.”
Women as well as men may enjoy compliments on their looks. But saying this to a female coworker or executive at an inappropriate time can make female coworkers feel as though their skills and work are not taken seriously—that male counterparts are focusing only on their looks. Comments on weight and/or physical appearance should not be made to anyone in a business setting, as they imply a level of personal familiarity. They also suggest the person was fat or looked bad before. And the person might have an undisclosed illness, which would obviously make the comment even more rude.

3. Any kind of sexual comment.
Not only do sexual innuendos and derogatory terms like “honey” make the female employee on the receiving end feel embarrassed and offended, they also create a problem for the rest of the workplace environment. Think your top women employees will stick around if they know a company does not promote and enforce equal respect.

4. “Is it that time of the month?” or “She’s so emotional.”
There’s a preconceived notion that women cannot handle stress and tend to get too “personally invested” in their work. Dr. Ella Bell, Associate Professor of Business Administration at the Tuck School of Business at Dartmouth, speaks very passionately about her work. As such, she immediately took offense when a senior male colleague said to her: “You sure wear your heart on your sleeve.”

That “ticked me off because I always try to be concrete. I interpreted it as my work wasn’t making intellectual sense,” recalls Bell. “I did pull him over on the side afterward and explained how it made me feel and that it was inappropriate.” Bell notes, however, that she was hesitant to speak up at first as she did not want to draw more negative attention.

When a female executive is forceful or aggressive, she can be received in a negative way, but a man in the same position is perceived as doing his job. One of the ways that negativity can be expressed is by attributing the behavior to hormonal changes. It is never appropriate to comment on a female coworker’s menstrual cycle or hormones. But how should a woman deal with the situation if she is the recipient of such a comment? Bell suggests that women find evidence of a male employee behaving the same way, which can help generate awareness for this common stereotype of women.

5. “You aren’t as aggressive with your subordinates as you should be. You need to be more forceful and tougher.”
“These are code words for being more ‘manly,’” says Barbara Frankel, Senior Vice President and Executive Editor of DiversityInc. “There are many different successful styles to manage people. What matters is results and that the manager’s style is inclusive and in keeping with the corporate culture.”

6. “You only got the job because you’re a woman.”
Suggesting to a woman that she’s excelled in her career because of gender is disrespectful. But unfortunately, Bell says this is a common occurrence, and that it’s common for those in the academic world to feel they must “justify” picking a woman over a man. “When a woman gets tenure you’ll hear others—including women—say, ‘She really wasn’t that good but they really wanted to keep her,’ or, ‘She shouldn’t have made it but … ,'” explains Bell. “You never hear that with the men.”

“After a while it rolls off your back. Your skin toughens so that when you hear comments, you can then approach the situation in a constructive way,” she says.

Elizabeth Vazquez, CEO of WEConnect International, a nonprofit fostering global business empowerment for women, says that globally there exists a perception that women do not have business savvy—this includes the ability to grow a company to a significant size and be a very successful business owner. “The public perception creates a cultural barrier for women who do not consider business ownership [or senior management] as a viable option, and it can also make it harder for women to get the support they need from their families and communities,” she explains.

To change this dynamic, Vazquez stresses the need to promote women’s success stories in business, including how they did it, what barriers they overcame, and the impact it has had on their lives and the lives of their families, communities and industry sector.

7.  “Do you really want that promotion? You’ll never see your kids.”
There still exists an unspoken belief that a woman executive will not be able to put in the same hours as a man. People assume she won’t be able to work more than 40 hours per week if she has a family or she’ll have to keep her children, not work, as the priority. This is a fatal error in judgment, especially for companies looking to improve gender diversity among their senior executives.

Don’t be quick to assume that a woman employee doesn’t value or want to pursue a high-profile executive career because she has (or wants) children at home. In fact, a woman who can simultaneously manage the demands of leading a team with the responsibilities of a busy family life demonstrates exceptional skill.

Similarly, you should never ask a woman, “Do you want to keep working now that you’re [married, divorced, pregnant, your husband/partner is relocating, your husband/partner is retiring]?” according to an anonymous female executive. You wouldn’t ask a man if he wanted to keep working if his family status changed or his significant other’s job status changed. But many bosses think it totally appropriate to ask women the same thing.

8.  “You do that so well for a girl.”
Even jokingly, the phrase implies that women are inferior to men and reinforces dated stereotypes. It also discourages many young women from actively pursuing interests in traditionally male-dominated industries, including STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Math) fields. Any conversation that implies that a woman—or any individual from any group—is “less than” is inappropriate. For an inspiring story, read about Wells Fargo Executive Vice President Michelle Lee’s experience as the only Black woman in her bank’s leadership-training program (www.DiversityInc.com/michelle-lee).

9. “Are you pregnant?” or “When are you due?”
While your intentions here may just be based on goodwill and a little curiosity, this can be a sensitive question to ask ANY woman, at work or outside of the office. Assume it’s none of your business unless a coworker decides to bring it up on her own. If you are discussing families and children, you may ask, “Do you have children?” but it’s up to the other person how much they want to reveal and when.


  • “You look thin. You should eat more.”
  • Calling your boss or a snarky female coworker the B-word.
  • “You aren’t one of those feminists, are you?”
  • “Why aren’t you married yet?”
  • “Men and women are treated equally. What are you complaining about?”
  • “You’re being irrational.”

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  • The oppression of women continues around the world. What a loss! Think of all the achievement, all the success, all the progress that humanity has missed out on because of that oppression.

    • I’m sorry but women are not oppressed. If all these things can’t be said without “offending” a woman but it’s ok for women to say the same shit to men then that means that men are oppressed. Women can hit men, call them pussies (even though the majority of women will cry for help just to lift a heavy box), cry sexual harassment or call a guy creepy just because they don’t like the person. But if a man were to do any of these things they would be laughed at.

      • Well, I can see why you would be upset. Of course there are men who are out there who can be respectful and polite to women and other males, but in general, there are many who do not treat us the same. Women should not be saying these things to anyone, but a man should not be earning more than a women. Why do we get paid less for the same job? Why is it because we are able to have kids we can be cat called and harassed? Men can be harassed and men can be raped and assaulted, but for women it is more likely. You are not oppressed. We want equality. I don’t think the way many women are going about getting it is good, though. There are still inequalities on both side, like when a female grabs a males butt it’s seen as flirty but Vice-Versa it is assault. But, we are taxed on feminine products as “luxury-items”, are assaulted and raped more than men, and often the butt of many sexist jokes.

        • I agree. That’s why at work when a female coworker asked me for help to lift something heavy and I asked her why she asked me, she said, “Because you’re a strong man.” I didn’t lift the box because I felt that what she was telling was that because I’m a man I should work harder than her. So I took it up with HR and it turns out I was right. If we are equal, than shouldn’t she lift the same that I am lifting? If we get paid the same, than shouldn’t she work as hard as I am? If we have the same benefits, then shouldn’t she earn it as I am? Now I smile when I see her make two trips upstairs because she has to empty half of the box she’s carrying. It’s ok to smile as long as I’m not staring at her. And of course all the female coworkers are fuming from anger. They just can’t have the best of both worlds: demanding equality when it benefits them and then expecting a man to hold the door open for them. I strictly safe my gentlemanly behavior for my mother, wife, and daughter, the ones that understand that by the grace of God, we were not created equal! First off, bearing a child is a true blessing! How envious I am that women can do that! Shame on those females who use that to make a point of not treated equal! And shame on those men that use THAT to belittle a woman! That’s why God made men strong, so that we can guard the door or hold her hand.

          • You may be strong in the arms, but not between the ears. Please remember this regarding the last time you were fired – it wasn’t “political correctness”, it was being a jerk that got you fired. Jerks are disruptive and cause a loss of productivity and that’s why they should be fired.

          • I couldn’t have said it better myself, Milton. I am in complete agreement. I treat the women in my office in a similar fashion (let’s give them the equality they want).

            American society hasn’t gone far enough, in my opinion. For example, women should also have to register for the Selective Service — same as men.

        • I agree. That’s why at work when a female coworker asked me for help to lift something heavy and I asked her why she asked me, she said, “Because you’re a strong man.” I didn’t lift the box because I felt that what she was telling was that because I’m a man I should work harder than her. So I took it up with HR and it turns out I was right. If we are equal, than shouldn’t she lift the same that I am lifting? If we get paid the same, than shouldn’t she work as hard as I am? If we have the same benefits, then shouldn’t she earn it as I am? Now I smile when I see her make two trips upstairs because she has to empty half of the box she’s carrying. It’s ok to smile as long as I’m not staring at her. And of course all the female coworkers are fuming from anger. They just can’t have the best of both worlds: demanding equality when it benefits them and then expecting a man to hold the door open for them. I strictly save my gentlemanly behavior for my mother, wife, and daughter, the ones that understand that by the grace of God, we were not created equal! First off, bearing a child is a true blessing! How envious I am that women can do that! Shame on those females who use that to make a point of not treated equal! And shame on those men that use THAT to belittle a woman! That’s why God made men strong, so that we can guard the door or hold her hand.

          • You just sound like a pure douchebag and you enjoy creating a hostile work environment. Your HR may have taken your side, but your actions aren’t noble or ethical.

      • So at your job women run around hitting men and call them names? Whatever, liar. I would bet a year’s salary that you have never, not once, been physically assaulted by a woman at work, nor have any of your female colleagues ever called you a “pussy”. And nobody said that it’s acceptable for women to say these things to men.

      • You sound like the many that believes reverse discrimination exists. This is your belief because you don’t have to deal with these things everyday. Newsflash: I’ve been working since I was 16 and in every job I’ve had I’ve either been directly or indirectly hit on by men, or accused of getting a promotion because of my looks. And I’ve NEVER cried foul because of men like you-if I say something I must be lying. This is called victim blaming. And it happens to women all across America in the workplace.

        Now that being said-I am in HR and I am vehemently against ANY form of discrimination from ANYONE. No it’s NOT okay to call men pussies, or to sexually harass them-or any of the things you listed. And as a man you should speak up if you are subjected to a discriminatory and hostile work environment. You are paid to come and do your job, not to be subjected to harassment. And female HR professionals across the country will tell you that.

        Why? Because Any and All types of discrimination go against creating an inclusive work environment and a heterogeneous workforce-where through different people you get the best collaborative business results.

        But to ignore the fact that their are problems that exist predominantly with a protected class in the corporate America work structure-which has been proven with data and stats is a foolish one that makes this belief more difficult to eradicate discriminatory behaviors.

      • “I’m sorry but women are not oppressed” Said a man who knows NOTHING about being a woman!

      • There are women in the world who aren’t allowed to work, drive, or go to school with the make compatriots. So don’t say women are not opressed! In USA it is ilegal to hit people, so I have no idea what you mean “women can hit men”. If a woman hits you, that’s a physical altercation – CALL THE POLICE.

  • I generally disagree with the concept behind the “what not to say to…” series, because more — not less — communication is needed between diverse individuals, and because the assumption that something would offend an entire group is, itself, a generalization, just like the stereotypes we all oppose. Nevertheless, most of these are so bad that they probably shouldn’t be said to anyone. The exception would be telling someone they look good. I think that’s a positive gesture, so long as it’s not phrased in a way to suggest that they normally — or previously — didn’t.

    • Thank you, GrannyBunny…I thought it was just me. I work at a VA hospital. The staff here are career Employees and we have all worked together for years, creating a familial environment where terms of endearment are common because of the close and communicative relationships we’ve developed. I frankly reject this uber-politically correct so-called advice. My colleagues at work call me everything from Big Brother to Papa (due to my age) and we constantly notice when a coworker drops some pounds or gets their hair done. It’s almost expected, again because we have cultivated a level of communication which supercedes the petty “rules of engagement” mandated in this writer’s opine. Those guidelines are for the new generation of working men and women, and I suppose should be until they develop the communication skills needed to create a positive and supportive work environment.

      • Thanks, Doc; and please feel free — anytime — to tell me I’ve lost weight! :)

        • I just dropped 25 lbs. myself, dear Sister (thank you for noticing).
          And by the way, you look spectacular today! Give yourself a raise!

          • NonWhiteHispanicPR

            Granny and Doc…thank you for expressing yourselves as human beings; your exchanges were refreshing. I do acknowledge there are some terms and phrases mentioned that should not be used but not to the extreme in which people cannot have any type of connection with each other and while exercising “politically correctness” interact like automatons.

          • Just had to chime in here:

            Of course we are able to talk to people we know with more familiarity. No one is saying that has to end in the workplace.

            But in the workplace it’s just a good idea to treat everyone with the same level of respect, because the unwritten agreement is it’s supposed to be a neutral ground.

            Call your female colleague who knows you “baby” if you both are okay with it. But don’t do it to a new hire, or someone without that level of familiarity.

            Because there are bosses out there who will call anyone “baby” just because they’re female, and it truly makes women uncomfortable. I hate political correctness, but I also hate the bosses who act that way.

            So the real issue is, are we capable of showing restraint in the workplace when it is required? Are we big enough to treat everyone as an individual? I think we all pretty much are, once you get past all the divisive bluster about political correctness.

            There is probably a very charismatic boss out there who calls everyone “baby” and is beloved. There are probably very tight friendships between colleagues in other workplaces where all manner of things are said about each other.

            However, this article was not speaking to those workplaces. It’s speaking to the workplaces where it IS a problem. If we could all be open and friendly enough to where nobody would ever get offended that would be great, but you simply can’t please everyone. There are employees who plain don’t like to be that familiar with coworkers. If we have to work together we have to be mindful of the things we say. That’s professionalism, in my opinion.

      • I think one thing this article doesn’t take into account is the differences in corporate culture and complexity of human relationships. It’s one thing to call a dear, longtime friend “Honey,” but quite another to call a colleague you don’t know that well the same term. It’s a fine line in a grey area sometimes.

        • This article was talking in GENERALITIES…of course any intelligent person would know that there are exceptions, especially with people you know very well.

          I think articles like these are speaking to whenever there’s a doubt…when in doubt, it is best to err on the side of caution rather than blurting out to someone you don’t know well comments about their physical appearance.

          You do no know what medical condition they may have that may cause them to lose weight or appear a certain way, ectcetera.

        • Its NOT okay to call anyone at work any kind of names of endearment!
          Its highly unprofessional, very disrespectful, and down right rude!
          Especially a female co-worker calling a married man sweetie, honey, baby, hun, darling or any of the like! Its insulting, cheap & inappropriate!
          Everyone has a proper name, and thats what should be used!
          Those pet names & names of endearment are & should be reserved for your wife or partner at home & or close family.
          NOT the workplace!
          Your there to work not socialize or whatever!
          It doesnt belong at the workplace environment.
          That too is sexual harassment!

  • Rene Rodriguez

    While it should never be said out loud in the workplace, I, as a woman, do not believe that women or anyone for that matter, can give equal time to their job and children. I’m sorry, but the feminists lies about this. And I think young women aren’t buying into this logic either. It is humanly not possible. How can you spend 12 hours at work and then give equal time to you’re child? It’s not possible. I know many will say its about the quality, not the quantity. Kids these know the difference. Believe me because I’ve been there!

    • Neither can dads either….there has to be a balance…that’s the key. It’s what feminism has advocated.

      I do get tired of people assuming that feminists are out to “destroy” family life or are “anti-children.”

      Feminism is FOR families…all kinds of diverse families.

      • Haha, “Feminism is FOR families,” no, feminism is apparently for equality as you stated earlier: “there has to be a balance…that’s the key. It’s what feminism has advocated.” What you’re assuming is that equality is the best for the family. Equality is an primarily an American mentality (I being an American myself). And let me say that America has the highest divorce rate than any other country, so maybe, just maybe, equality isn’t best for a family. Even the bible doesn’t support equality. It puts the male as head over the female. You’ve been brainwashed to believe that all forms of inequality are evil. Equality isn’t the only form of balance there is.

  • Though in general I agree with this article, we need to look deeper into the issue surrounding “You only got this job because you are a woman”. And to some extent, Diversity Inc is our worse enemy. In a drive to improve the ranks of women (and other diversity factors), women (and others) are being pushed into those positions compared to men with far more experience and accomplishments. It is the “data” that those of us in lower positions can see and RARELY do you see a white man “pushed” into those ranks without those elements. The ranks may be increasing but come on DiversityInc – how about looking at the “method” to get there? It takes time to develop that talent to move up. I really question an organization who had little representation in the upper ranks to dramatically improve those results in just a few short years.

    • Luke Visconti

      You’re just flat-out wrong. Women have earned more than half of bachelor’s degrees in each year since 1982. It didn’t go from zero to 51 percent. Of all working-age people today, 50 percent of people who have bachelor’s degrees are women—yet, they’re only 4.2 percent of Fortune 500 CEOs. I’d estimate that 99.5 percent of promotions since World War II have been given to white men specifically because they were white men. There are only two reasons for that: Either white men are superior to everyone else, or it is discrimination. Because I feel people are created equal, there’s only one reason, in my opinion—gross discrimination that was detrimental to the organizations that made the discriminatory moves. It wasn’t that long ago that professional women had to put up with only two weeks’ maternity leave. Luke Visconti, CEO, DiversityInc

      • I work for one of Diversity,Inc. top 50, I lead the diversity efforts for my department. I have had the PRIVLAGE of see the number of women in “management/executive” ranks decline – and there were plenty of women ready and qualified – supporting your article. HOWEVER, at this time there are 0 women “on the bench” and I am seeing a FEW women being expedited up when there are men FAR MORE qualified. We went through this once at my company, and most tanked – in an effort to bring our diversity numbers up. One discussion is to “bring women in from the outside” to “get the number”. REALLY? By “data”, I guess that would meet Diversity, Inc criteria. One thing I have enjoyed with Diversity, Inc, is your ability to “get behind” the “window dressing” with your analysis.
        I have been with my company for over 20 years. I have stayed this long because we were a “different” company. I no longer see the “fair and level playing field. Though we have women in some areas of the executive ranks, there are only a couple in the manufacturing side of the business.
        The overwhelming shocking piece for me is to even be exeriencing this today. I am very disappointed in my peers. These are men whose mothers, wives, sisters, daughters work/have worked.

        • You really should re-think your ability to work on any diversity project. Your comments show that you are quite biased against woman. I am very surprised and shocked that this was written by a woman.

        • If you work like you spell…It must be a real PRIVLAGE to work with you. No wonder your ranks will decline.

      • Just curious, did women obtain 51% of the degrees in Engineering, Accounting, Physics? I didn’t think so…

        • I understand that employees may have a casual and friendly relationship, but we need to examine what are the motives behind what people say. I also take offense to the belief that they are always better qualified men than women, “please give me a break.” I have seen unqualified men get positions and no one have the nerve to question that.

  • @Conrado

    I am female with a STEM degree, yet I work in a non-STEM job working with homeless agencies. While I had the background from my grandmothers of working with the homeless, I do see first-hand that female STEM graduates are pushed toward stereotypical female jobs even with a STEM degree. Stereotypes die hard.

  • Vicki Sue, I agree that it’s frustrating to see less-qualified candidates get promoted for superficial reasons. However, I’m not sure that creating a diverse management team qualifies as a “superficial” reason. The real problem at your company, in my opinion, is that there are ZERO women “on the bench” or undergoing training for top management positions, and that women who are promoted to bring diversity are not supported/cultivated to become effective managers.

    • Luke Visconti

      I’d like to put something to rest. No sane company is promoting less-qualified people for the sake of “appearances” or “political correctness.” Businesses exist to make money, that’s what they do. When you see things change, it’s because the leaders have decided that change will make more money.

      The most frequent causes of promoting less-qualified people are nepotism and cronyism—both grossly disproportionately benefit white men. George W. Bush was the greatest beneficiary of affirmative action in American history. The fact that nobody’s in prison for invading Iraq is the greatest injustice I’ve ever seen, apart from the fact that McNamara lived out his life a free man. Any person you see promoted who is not a white, Christian, heterosexual male with no disabilities is likely to be three times as qualified as anyone else (at the average company).

      The thing I dislike the most about running this publication is the repetitive emails from white people who think that they’re being discriminated against, when the reality is that the discrimination that everyone else was facing in favor of them is finally ending.

      Finally, to the smart guy who asked about women getting technical degrees: Where’s the problem? With women who graduate with a four-year degree at a higher-percentage completion rate in a shorter period of time than men, or is the problem with the men running the departments at universities who can’t figure out how to make some smart women switch majors? Again, the women are more successful in college than the men—yet the STEM department heads (who are overwhelmingly male) can’t figure out how to recruit the more successful gender. It’s not women who need to “lean in,” it’s men who have to make their organizations “lean in” FOR THEIR OWN GOOD. Luke Visconti, CEO, DiversityInc

  • A curious article. I have 2 entirely different experiences. During the bulk of my career in the securities industry. There were few comments like these. The work was intense, the women I encountered were as capable as the men. I managed a number of them. We developed an atmosphere of friendly kidding, but with respect. Certainly no remarks like mentioned.
    Later when I retired and moved south from NYC to Georgia. I took a mid level mgmt. job at a company. Frankly I was shocked. Being much older than most of the women working there. I heard them say things to me, I would never have thought possible, about other workers and their own personal lives!
    The former experience was an easy one to work in, you knew the boundaries. The latter a kind of mine field of things. I spent more time ‘mouth agape’, at the personal details freely given. In that atmosphere, there were NO boundaries it seemed. It made me uncomfortable. Though that is how the women seemed to want it.

  • I have experienced the ‘tough’ verbiage. I reported direct to the CFO and President (both male) at a company within the manufacturing industry. The president stated to me that ‘you have to be tough in business’. I was later hired into another manufacturing company. That time I reported direct to the CFO (female). She stated to me (while on the phone with the warehouse manager with the phone receiver up and away) that ‘sometimes you have to be a b**** to get things done’. I far prefer the ‘tough’ analogy to the ‘b****’ analogy. However, I have successfully worked in other industries where I do not hear either analogy. I have placed the manufacturing industry on my do not apply list.

  • “Do you really want that promotion? You’ll never see your kids.”

    What’s also wrong with this is the assumption that men are OK with not seeing their kids often enough. When fathers can’t be as involved as they need or want to be it hurts everyone as much as it hurts when a mother can’t be as involved as they need or want to be. The stereotype of the woman as the main caregiver is unfair to both sexes and all children, IMO.

  • Will Saunders

    Why do we affix gender to this? This article implies it’s okay for a woman to call a man sweetie or it’s okay to comment on the man’s weight. If you tell me these things are wrong then it should be wrong regardless who says it, right?

  • political correctness, otherwise called lies, are killing conversation. what’s wrong with people?

  • It is not only women or other coworkers that should not hear hon, honey, sweetie or the like, but a persons boss should not be called honey by their secretary. Even in a small rural fire department in the south it is unprofessional. I recently gave a written reprimand to a female secretary for calling me honey. I’ve lived in the south all of my life and have worked with many diverse people but never have I had a boss be called honey by their employees.

    • Ha ha! You got to give her a written reprimand? Aren’t you lucky. I’m an engineer and get called “girl” and “honey” and get told I can’t make decisions because I’m a woman, that I should make lunch for everyone because I’m a woman, etc. When I talked to my manager about it I was advised to “try to turn it into a joke”. Yup! Sounds like you sure do have it rough and subordinate women are trampling all over you.

  • “Men and women are treated equally. What are you complaining about?” If I had a dollar for ever time I have heard that! Fact is if you are a man, you have no idea what woman have to deal with. I work for a very large company, who is so top heavy with white men in the top positions, yet have great statistics for hiring a diverse group of people. Sure, they hire a great deal of woman & minorities, who are predominately in the bottom of the pay scale. You can’t always believe the statistics.

  • I work with a bunch of women, and to be honest most of the time they are in a bad mood or cat fighting with one another, However there is a tall pretty blond that works as part of the administrative staff, she is very pleasant and every time she walks by she smiles and says ” how are you today?” and keeps going. The other day I walked into my work station and she was seated at one of the desk in front of a computer and thought the usual “Hi how are you was a bit dull” so I was going to say “And how is the lovely Jessica doing today?” but I hesitated and did not say anything thinking she might of taken it wrong!

    • Even though it doesn’t like you would have been offensive from where I sit, you did the right thing. Offense is in the eye of the beholder.

  • The safest thing: don’t talk with your female coworkers about ANYTHING but work.

    I don’t mean the ‘silent reatment:’ be polite, be concise, and that’s all.

    Anything, i mean really ANYTHING else could be used against you with modern laws if you are a male.

    A compliement ? Sexual harassment !
    A remark ? Hostile Work Environment !

    If you really have to say something, always have a reliable witness and/or keep a record of it. (Cellphones and MP3 can do this for no price).

    A recording can’t be used in court, but the police (or your employer) will be pleased to hear that you didn’t threatened to rape her., and the case will go nowhere (not in jail, at least)

    Am i joking ? Hell, no !

    The mere words of a woman is enough to make you fired (or jailed). Remember the Hofstra case !

  • I am very late for this article but I just wanted to point out how irritated my female bosses get when I a dress them as “Boss Lady” after they give me orders.

  • Good for you. I have a boss who sends emails addressing his female staff as “gorgeous” or “beautiful.” He has no idea how it makes them cringe.

  • Yea I’m gonna avoid the storm and not comment on feminism. Pretty sure girl writes what coved that multiple times. Live a lie if you want. It’s your life.

    Anyway, I am usually 1 of the 2 males at my job. Not including my boss. The gossip is ridiculous. So, I think this whole article is bs. They say some of the nastiest things behind each other’s backs. If a man said that about another man it would be a different

  • Sorry my comment was accidentally posted early. Like I was saying. If a man said this stuff (about another man) I hear the females saying he’d get his butt kicked.

    That being said, the double standard is expected. I’m not surprised. Especially with all the feminist talk here.

    Ironically, I do agree that period jokes are off limits. However, my female coworkers like when I give them compliments. For Christs sake they flirt back. I guess these rules apply to men who you’re not attracted to right?

  • Basically talk only work and no play… Hmmmm… Well, doesn’t all work and no play make Jack a dull boy..??

    • Patrick, you’re “a dull boy” indeed. The article is about women.

      Yet another person who’s going to blame “political correctness” for getting fired when the real reason is being an offensive productivity killer.

  • I haven’t gotten any of these, thank goodness, but I did have a coworker make an inappropriate sexist joke. I told him that it was sexist, though and was not amused and quite frankly, shocked that he would tell it directly to me. If I’m losing weight, I actually like for people to notice, I don’t take it personal at all because I worked freaking hard to lose weight, lol. Also, I will tell other people that they look good if I see that they lost weight, male or female.

  • FemaleScientistForReals

    Also don’t say “good girl”. I am 35, I am not even a girl anymore, I am a woman. Even if I was 18, it’s tremendously condescending.

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